The Sex Talk You Never Got with Sam Jolman
This convo can legit change generations
Hey friend, it's Monday... and “Let’s talk about sex baby" (but in a way that will surprise you and maybe seriously change some things— like generationally).
In Today's Episode:
A convo chat that's basically "The Sex Talk You Deserved But Never Got"
New perspectives on God-given sexuality that can impact generations
Practical way to engage the “talk” with your kids and explore how the talk you got (or didn’t) influenced your sexuality
If there was an award for "Guest Who Made Us Question Everything We Thought We Knew About Sexuality and How to talk About It" - Sam would win hands down.
Look, we’ve had a lot of convos about masculinity with clients, but this one hit different.
It was like someone finally turned the lights on in a room you’ve been fumbling around in for decades. As men, we can just be bad at talking honestly about sexuality, aren't we?
And for a lot of us, part of that is because no one talked honestly with us about it.
We joke about it, brag about it, but rarely do we actually talk about it.
Sam specializes in helping men reconnect with their sexuality through—get this—innocence, awe, and joy rather than the usual shame cocktail we've all been served.
I know, right? Revolutionary concept that maybe our sexuality isn't something to feel crappy about.
But it's his perspective on male sexuality, attachment, and what healthy sexual identity actually looks like is so needed and worth paying attention to.
We found ourselves nodding along thinking, "If only we talked about it this way more!"
If you've ever:
Had the awkward “talk” with your parents about sex (or frankly didn’t have one at all).
Had that moment when your kid asks where babies come from and you panic like you're diffusing a bomb
Wondered why your "drive" and your actual "desire" feel like two completely different things fighting for control
Carried sexual shame around like an overpacked suitcase that's getting heavier by the year...
...then honestly, just scroll down some more and start listening to the episode.
In the Episode We dive into:
Why addressing your own sexual shame is like putting your oxygen mask on first before helping others (and most of us are trying to parent while quietly suffocating)
The story behind Sam's book "The Sex Talk You Never Got" (spoiler: it's the book many of us wish our dads had handed us)
How to have actual meaningful conversations with your kids about sex without both of you dying of embarrassment
The mind-blowing reframing of sexuality as attachment behavior
Why our capacity for experiencing beauty and awe is directly connected to how we approach sexuality
The absolute necessity of open sexual education, because let's be honest, if you're not talking to your kids about sex, social media and definitely is
Sam has this way of taking something that feels heavy and complicated and making it feel... I don't know... human again?
Like sexuality isn't this scary monster under the bed but actually a normal, healthy part of being alive.
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About "The Sex Talk You Never Got"
So Sam wrote this book for all of us who got either no sex talk, a terrifying sex talk, or the "just don't do it" sex talk.
It's basically a reset button for men who've been failed by parents (even if they tried their best), churches, and a culture that's simultaneously obsessed with sex and terrible at talking about it.
The book reconnects sexuality with innocence, awe, and joy—three words you probably don't associate with sexuality if you grew up in basically any religious household ever.
It shows how to celebrate sexual desire rather than treating it like a rabid animal that needs to be caged.
And he does it without the shame spiral! I honestly didn't know that was possible when talking about male sexuality. It's like finding out you can eat ice cream without brain freeze.
Thanks for being here with us through all this.
These conversations aren't always easy, but man, are they necessary.
Thanks for being here. Keep coming back. You're worth it.
- Jamie & Blake
P.S. If this email hit home, forward it to that friend who could use an honest conversation about sexuality. You know the one.
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Sam Jolman has great insights in this conversation with Three Percent hosts Jamie and Blake!