Moving Beyond "Good Enough" in Your Marriage with Dr. Dan Allender

This convo really applies to all of our relationships.

Hey friends,

As we continue sharing sneak peeks of what's coming in March (2 weeks away from launch day!!), today we're excited to give you a glimpse into our profound conversation with Dr. Dan Allender— a conversation we still can’t believe we got to have.

Dan is one of our therapist heroes. If you're not familiar with him, he's a pioneer in the psychology and theology spaces, author, and thought leader who has spent over 30 years helping people find deep healing through understanding their stories.

We sat down with Dan to discuss his new book, "The Deep-Rooted Marriage," and our conversation went far beyond typical marriage advice.

This episode isn’t just for those who are married! We explored the depths of intimacy, masculinity, healing, and what it means to truly see and be seen by another person.

We’re not going to tell you too much about the episode because it’s just so good you’ll have to listen to the whole thing. Just take a listen to this clip about men that literally left us going:

What We Learned:

• The Past Lives in the Present: Dan shares how our early experiences and wounds unconsciously shape our relationships. And he gets vulnerable in how this shows up in his marriage. But rather than seeing this as a problem, he revealed how these challenges can become opportunities for profound healing and connection.

• Safety Changes Everything: We explored how creating genuine emotional safety in marriage isn't just about avoiding conflict—it's about building a space where both partners can be fully known, with all their complexities and contradictions.

• The Power of Story: Dan's approach shows how understanding our personal narratives—and our partner's—can transform conflict from a battleground into an opportunity for deeper connection and healing.

What to Do Next:

• Create Space: Take time this week to really listen to the other persons story without trying to fix or change anything.

• Practice Curiosity: Next time you feel triggered in your relationship, try getting curious about what's happening beneath the surface—both for you and your them— instead of jumping to criticism.

This conversation with Dan exemplifies what Three Percent is all about—diving deep into those hidden places we often avoid, and discovering how facing them with courage can lead to profound change and the type of relationships we deeply desire.

The full episode drops in March, and trust us—you won't want to miss it. Dan's wisdom and vulnerability created a space for the kind of honest conversation about marriage that we rarely hear.

ORDER DANS NEW BOOK HERE! Your relationship will thank you.

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See ya next Monday.

- Jamie & Blake